Hey Bestie 💋

I’m currently rewatching Grey’s Anatomy and I recently finished season 8. April lost her virginity to Jackson and she’s spiraling over the belief that premarital sex is a sin. At one point I found myself yelling at the tv “April, it’s just sex!”. But that’s the thing. Religion has taught women that sex is sacred. Now I’m not saying you should fuck everything and everyone. Definitely not. However, I do believe you can have sex just because you want an orgasm. You don’t have to marry or want a relationship with every person you fuck. Though please be cautious with who you decide to give your body to. Sex is a transfer of energy and the last thing you want to do is lay down with someone who is having an internal battle.

The shame that April felt is extremely relatable. As a south Texas native who grew up in the catholic church, premarital sex was seen as going against God. In school we were taught that abstinence is key. Recently, a couple of public schools in Utah have approved faith based sex education. Some of the subjects include “consequences of premarital sex”. You can view one of the worksheets: HERE. Faith based/abstinence only sex education curriculums do not address consent, boundaries, dating apps, masturbation nor do they provide an inclusive environment, especially for LGBTQ+ and BIPOC communities.

Jane The Virgin is another show that talks about purity culture, specifically within the Latinx community. Alba, Jane’s abuela, taught her that losing her virginity before marriage will cause her value as a woman to decrease. The way that my culture, the Catholic religion, and society has framed sex for Latinas has caused more harm than good. You have women who are unaware how to communicate to their partner(s) about boundaries, desires, and needs because they were never encouraged to explore their bodies. For myself, I was terrified of having sex. And when I did decide to seek pleasure, I felt immense guilt and shame. Which was honestly so confusing because my pu**y was telling me “girl you need d*ck” but my brain on the other hand kept screaming - “this is wrong!” your value has gone down!”, “you’re a slut!”, “God is going to punish you!”. It was a constant internal battle.

Sex education, masturbation, abortion access, pleasure, and politics. Five areas where religion should not intersect. I’m making space for myself to unlearn the shame and rewrite my narrative around sex. You don’t have to carry the burdens that were passed down from generations. Reclaim your body, your joy, and your pleasure.

Con Amor,

Lorena

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